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nick15
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 Posted - 06 Aug 2003 : 12:49:31 AM
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Jezi
USA
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Posted - 06 Aug 2003 : 3:46:31 PM
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Is it internet pornography only? Or other forms as well...
If it is just internet porn, pull the plug on the net for awhile. We don't have to have email, and the net, really, it's not a requirement for life. I turned off the internet for about a year last year, and it was Great!
Love & Peace
Jezi
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Steve Wilson
USA
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Posted - 06 Aug 2003 : 6:04:12 PM
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I think single males have it the worse. It's so tempting.
I have problems sometimes when I'm changing channels on TV. I find myself leaving it on a channel that's showing naked women.
The internet can be addicting and hard to stay off.
The best I can say is keep trying...and keep asking for forgiveness.
You may even consider telling someone at your church. Our pastor once said it's better to fix it among man, then to bring it before God(when we are in Heaven).
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bee
Ireland
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Posted - 08 Aug 2003 : 07:04:35 AM
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Hi Nick 15,
I would advise to pray to God about this, pour out your heart before him and be willing to part with any porn things, i would advise you get rid of all porn mags,videos etc. I would also advice to speak to your pastor or a trusted friend about your problem remember there is no deliverance without confession, iwould also advice you to visit a website dedicated to helping christians addicted to porn it is www.xxxchurch.com and don't be afraid to go there in contains no form of Nudity at all, God bless and i would have you in my prayers.And whenever you are tempted to look at porn quote the verse below and stand on it, remember when Jesus was tempted in the wilderness(Matthew 4)he used the powerful word of God so in your situation pull out the sword of the spirit i.e the word of God.
I will set no wicked thing before mine eyes.(Psalm 101:3) |
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Love Fountain
USA
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Posted - 08 Aug 2003 : 10:30:52 PM
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Hi nick15,
Will and Discipline, once you have the will you have to FIND the DISCIPLINE. If you tell yourself that it's no good long enough maybe you'll back off, give it a try. Brainwash yourself it might work and you may actually stop. Keep telling yourself it's no good and you don't like it until you believe yourself. What is your situation with relations of the opposite gender? Have you tried getting to know any girls/women? Any success? If your having problems meeting girls try stopping for a couple weeks and see if you meet more girls/women?
It's a conscious decision of yes or no?
Just say no to the lust
Bless you,
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LostinHim
111 Posts |
Posted - 08 Aug 2003 : 11:58:14 PM
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nick,
This is an addiction. Try reading and memorizing Romans 6. It will help you to put to death the sin that is trying to live within you. Christ has promised to never leave us or forsake us . This is true even when we are sinning.He is there. It is just that our hearts are hardened to his presence. Allow Him to be loving and kind to you and draw you to repentance. He is faithful. He will do it. Put your armor on and fight the good fight of faith. Keep busy doing the lords work.His eye is on the sparrow and he is watching over you,too.
Awaiting the Return of the King, |
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Abigail
USA
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Posted - 09 Aug 2003 : 4:56:25 PM
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pornfree.com
The site has alot of info on porn/sex addiction.
Speaking from experience (my own and, also, my spouses):
It can become like a drug addiction. The sexual feelings involved when viewing or reading porn is highly addictive.
I have had to give up most movies and books because somewhere in them they will have some form of nudity or sex. Ahhhh! Not everyone has to give up these things but for me it made it easier.
I can say that whatever I've had to give up or change to battle this porn has been made up in my walk with Jesus. It has not been easy. I have been a Christian for 9 years and it has been only this last year I have realized the depth of how porn affected the way I view men. Ugh.
It is a continuous battle but it can become easier the more you say no. The more you give in to it the more it will overpower you.
Recently, in my local paper it had an article about porn addiction. There are many counselors all over the country that are working specifically with porn. You will benefit from having a person to discuss this with in person.
I hope this helps.
Abigail
"For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood,
but against principalities, against powers,
against the rulers of the darkness of this age,
against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places."
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my quivers full
Canada
280 Posts |
Posted - 09 Aug 2003 : 6:19:11 PM
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Hello nick,
I hear you man, i've been where you are and let me share a few things that help. Yes it's good to remove the material, so as to not be tempted, but this is only a half solution. This driving impulse is a spiritual issue. You've shown through your post that this is not something that you desire, else you wouldn't be asking for help. Repenting to God specifically for your actions will also help, but lets not turn a blind eye to the spirit of Lust.
Nothing would make Satan any happier than to see you clean your life up and then knock you down again, because he has a stronghold in your life and you didn't deal with him. Jesus said signs and wonders would follow those who beleive. Included in that list was casting out demons.
At some point in your life, the door was opened through sexual sin and this demon attached itself to you. It is very important for you to know that your body was bought with a price. Jesus paid that price with His blood. He defeated this enemy you face and gave you authority over this enemy. Use that authority to take back what doesn't belong to him. If you struggle with doing this. ask your pastor to help. Once the enemy of Lust is removed, he will attempt to return at some point. this is where you stand strong. Resist the devil and he WILL flee from you. You are stronger than he is. don't let him bully you! When he realizes that he can't take back he will pester you less and less. it's unlikly that he will ever completely go away, but you will have victory.
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Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free." john 8:32
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Prodigal Son
USA
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Posted - 10 Aug 2003 : 07:34:12 AM
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There is only one who can help you with this Nick. Whenever you feel the urge, pick up the bible and read. Make this commitment to yourself and to Christ. He will remove this from you. I know. My past addictions and sins have all been taken from me by Christ. But I had to take the step of asking for his help. Listen to the small voice inside you that tells you what you are doing is wrong. All you have to do is listen and pray for deliverance.
“…And I tell you, Ask, and it will be given you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. For every one who asks receives, and he who seeks finds, and to him who knocks it will be opened. What father among you, if his son asks for a fish, will instead of a fish give him a serpent; or if he asks for an egg, will give him a scorpion? If you then, who are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will the heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him!” |
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Ron G
USA
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Posted - 10 Aug 2003 : 09:37:51 AM
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Dear Steve Wilson,
From your post-
"I have problems sometimes when I'm changing channels on TV. I find myself leaving it on a channel that's showing naked women."
I don't think you have a problem with this. God made women with beautiful bodies so that men would want to look at them. I don't consider myself to be particularly perverted, but if I were to come across a channel with a beautiful naked women showing herself, I wouldn't change the channel right away either. Most women are just plain beautiful and it would be strange (IMO) if a man would not want to look at them.
Nick 15, it is more of a problem for you. If porn drives you to masterbate then that is taking it a bit too serious. It could be normal if you are a teen ager and not married, as the hormone level will naturally be much higher than your IQ. It will level off in a few years. If you are older though and still get that excited about porn, then you need to pray about it and take measures to avoid coming in contact with porn.
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Halbert
USA
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Posted - 10 Aug 2003 : 11:27:00 PM
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Hey Nick15
I have been where you are aand it can be very difficult.
Porn is an either up or out problem. you have to find more daring and perverse porn all the time in order to keep the same leveel of stimulation. I think this causes some people to go so far as to expose themselves to homosexuality, bestiality, and pedaphelia just to stay stimulated. If you think this is an exxtreme statement try going back to just looking at Bikini magazines aand see if its not boring.
What I have found in my personal struggle is that when I spend more time in the Bible and praying my desire for porn decreases greatly. I think you have made a great first step by looking for help here! Spend your internet time discussing Biblical things with other believers. I promise you it is a much healthier addiction.
I do not know if you are single or married. Porn can be distructive to your marriage either way. It can create ridiculous expectations about the way sex is supposed to be for those who are immature. The typical porn star is Mr. Priaptic mega-phallys. No one measures up- male or female- to the porn standard. It is destructive.
I have an old friend from high school who unfortunately grew up with a father who left his porn out all the time. This guys expectations of women are so screwed up that he has never had a real relaationship and is a 36 year old virgin with no prospects. By the way he is an unbeleiver and is quite a handsome fellow. I have another former friend who grew up the same way. He is in a swinging, wife swapping marraige and basically pimps his wife.
Stay in your Bible and keep seeking help. While your here you might give us a few observations on other issues. Nothing keeps you in the Bible like trying to help others with questions or trying to back up your position with scripture
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LostinHim
111 Posts |
Posted - 11 Aug 2003 : 10:52:35 AM
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Dear Ron G
There is a problem with seeing a woman naked and not turning away. It cost King David his son and divided his Kingdom.
Simply seeing is not the problem it is what you do afer that. On occasion I will point out a pretty woman to my husband. This takes the guilt away from him and allows him to thank the creator for the beatuiful creation. Then the thought ofcf her is gone. He doesn't dream about her . He doesn't think of her when we are intimate. She becomes just what she truly is , part of God's creation. To be appreicated but not lusted after.
Who are you tring to please? God or self?
Awaiting the Return of the King, |
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nick15
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Posted - 11 Aug 2003 : 11:01:13 AM
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| thanks for all the info so far. I am a teenager,15 to be exact and the stuff ive read has helped a lot thank you very much. |
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truthlover
USA
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Posted - 04 Sep 2003 : 8:26:35 PM
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The body of a naked woman is a glimpse of eternity for a man..plus guys are wired more visually ...i learned that in Wild at Heart by John eldridge you should read it ...
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asimovman
USA
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Posted - 04 Sep 2003 : 11:07:44 PM
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I agree with the person who suggested xxxchurch.com--if you do visit them, be sure to download their "free accountability software." This is a software program that automatically tells a friend if you look at porn basically, I believe, so that might be helpful.
Also, I did a little bit of research on masturbation in the Bible. Masturbation is not specifically condemned in the Bible. There is a verse about some guy "spilling his seed on the ground" and God then smiting him, but that's often taken out of context as a condemnation of masturbation. The danger in masturbation though, of course, is the temptation to use porn/think lustful thoughts while doing it. So there's some danger in masturbation, but the pornography viewing is the main danger that you should focus on I think, as that's specifically mentioned in God's word.
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Originally posted by nick15
i have a problem with porn and i cant quit looking at it. I can stop for a week and then i have this feeling that i have to look at it and masterbate and its just gross. Its pulling me further from christ and i need help.
Jesus is The Truth. And I think most of the people using this forum already know that. So... yeah. good. |
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asimovman
USA
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Posted - 04 Sep 2003 : 11:15:19 PM
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I probably should have specified how that "spilling the seed" verse is often taken out of context. The guy who did it, his brother died and under the old Hebrew law he had to impregnate his wife so that his brother's bloodline would be continued. Well the guy "enjoyed" his brother's wife, so to speak, but then "pulled out," so to speak, thereby "spilling his seed upon the ground." So God struck him dead for being a selfish perverted little jackass.
Jesus is The Truth. And I think most of the people using this forum already know that. So... yeah. good. |
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